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| Becky23 Member #: 86 # Posts: 13 | I was just wondering if everyones families/family members ever made it difficult for any of you. My whole family is telling me that trying to restart my life is the wrong thing to do. That I shouldn't settle for this life. I am not settling but I don't want to not do anything in the meantime either. Is that the wrong attitued? Becky from Chicago........ just curious  4/18/2005 7:18 PM |
| JJ Member #: 108 # Posts: 11 | Becky You have to move on with your life regardless if your in a chair or not. Ive accepted my life the way it is now and so have all my family and friends. As bad as this sounds I have more fun now then I did before and thats because I appreciate everything a lot more now. You dont have the wrong attitude by any means just live your life the way you want to. JJ 4/19/2005 10:09 AM |
| Bob Member #: 84 # Posts: 4 | Hi Becky, JJ is right, your attitude is not wrong. You need to start and change your life the best way YOU feel comfortable with. As hard as it is to imagine, things will fall into place, be it next week, next month or whenever, but always remember to hold your head high and be yourself not what others want you to be. 5/6/2005 6:47 AM |
| Bowtieboy Member #: 140 # Posts: 10 | If anybody has read my profile . they understand what has happened to me . my wife to total advantage of my accident . I got tired of the family telling me what to do . I got tired of being depressed and dwelling on the past and what people say . so , I woke up one morning and said to myself" today is the beginning to the rest of my life" and my life totally changed my attitude changed and I could concentrate a lot better on rehab , and everybody noticed a big difference So remember these words I may be changed by what has happened to me, but I will not be reduced by it! So move on with life and use the pain and anger to fuel your efforts on getting stronger and better. Jerry 5/7/2005 2:16 PM |
| forge451 Member #: 164 # Posts: 2 | Hey There Becky, Speaking as an AB married to a c5-6 quad, you should ABSOLUTLY get on with your life. If that means starting over or just finding a new way to continue where you were prior to you injury it does not matter. Acknowledging that your life has changed is not the same as giving into it. It sounds to me like you have come to this conclusion already, but it's you family that has yet to come to grips with it. If you are wondering where to start I suggest stoping over at the lifecenter at RIC. They have a women with disabilities center that might be able to help put you in touch with people to help get you out on your own, if that's what you want. Since you are a para you probably cath yourself and can transfer pretty well. There is no reason you cannot live on your own. If you need any help, my wife and I have made lots of contacts through the Chicago Bears Wheelchair Rugby team (shameless plug) and can put you in touch with local quads who have lived on their own. As an AB, whenever I feel like there's something I cannot do, I simply think back to watching one of the quads from the Miwaukee rugby team using an angle grinder to fix his wheelchair in the middle of a tounament. After seeing that I know there is nothing that is impossible. --Rich 5/9/2005 12:05 AM |
| forge451 Member #: 164 # Posts: 2 | Oh, the website for RIC's lifecenter is http://lifecenter.ric.org/ and the women's center is http://www.ric.org/community/womendc.php --Rich 5/9/2005 12:08 AM |
| JJ Member #: 108 # Posts: 11 | Becky Ive been to the life center and they are great over there. They have a ton of activities for everybody to do. I play on the RIC Cubs softball team and you meet so many people that you can learn soo much from. I would really look into it if I were you. JJ P.S. That wasnt a shameless plug Rich it was pretty sneaky though.. 5/9/2005 2:40 PM |
| Becky23 Member #: 86 # Posts: 13 | Thanks Rich and JJ. I would love any information that you could give me about these. I looked at both of the websites but unfortunately, my parents would be very upset about me asking about independant living, etc... I know that sounds stupid. I will attempt to contact them myself but not sure how it is going to work out. Thanks so much for the links to the website. Becky from Chicago  5/10/2005 4:52 PM |
